Growing up in environments predominantly filled with boys, whether in school or with family, while also having two sisters, I have encountered a complex interplay of societal expectations regarding masculinity and emotional expression. From an early age, I internalised the idea that to be considered strong and masculine, one must exhibit stoicism and suppress emotions. This pressure to conform to traditional gender norms was particularly pronounced in interactions with peers and authority figures, where vulnerability was often equated with weakness.

However, my experience was not solely defined by conforming to these rigid gender stereotypes. Despite societal expectations, I have always had an innate understanding of the importance of emotional expression and communication. Yet, expressing genuine feelings of despair or vulnerability was met with resistance and even ridicule from those around me. I was often labelled as "too emotional" or "too sensitive," which created a sense of isolation and alienation.

Navigating these conflicting expectations has been a journey of self-discovery and self-acceptance. As the oldest sibling in a multicultural family with both British and Ghanaian influences, I have had to reconcile the demands of masculinity with my own emotional needs and cultural background. While I recognise the harmful effects of toxic masculinity, I also understand the societal pressures to embody strength and resilience, especially as a man.

Over time, I have learned to embrace both aspects of my identity—the strength to face challenges head-on and the vulnerability to acknowledge and express my emotions. This journey has been facilitated by creating safe spaces where I can freely explore and articulate my feelings without fear of judgement or rejection. These spaces, whether through therapy, supportive friendships, or self-reflection, have allowed me to cultivate a more authentic and integrated sense of self.

While the path to self-acceptance is ongoing and at times challenging, I have come to appreciate the richness and complexity of my experiences as a man navigating through societal expectations. By challenging traditional notions of masculinity and embracing a more holistic understanding of strength and vulnerability, I have found greater peace and authenticity in expressing my emotions and forging meaningful connections with others.